Tuesdays with Timothy #23

I Timothy 3:2 A bishop then must be ... vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality...

When a church is looking for a pastor or when a man is desires to be a pastor, God has provided some bullet points for consideration. As I said before, no man can be everything listed. There is only one perfect pastor and his name is Jesus. However, these are the markers to which pastors should strive and should be either close or on the way their. These, I believe, are markers of a man's overall character.

The pastor of a church must be vigilant, and sober. He is to be a temperate, sound minded man. A sober life and a sound mind should be the character of a man of God. A pastor needs to be one who can control himself and his emotions. He is to be vigilant and in this context, the man is to be vigilant over himself and his passions.  He is to keep his body in subjection and be attentive to his soul. He is not only to keep a watch-out for the sins of the flock, but especially of the sins of his own soul. While he has been entrusted to care for the flock of God, he is himself in a precarious situation, that he must also be vigilant over himself. This vigilance along with sober-mindedness is sometimes confused with stoicism, which is not a Christian ethic. We are not to be emotionless (Philippians 3:18; Acts 20:19,30,31; Romans 9:2; 2 Corinthians 2:4; 2 Corinthians 11:29) but rather we are not to be ruled by our emotions.

The pastor is also to be a man of good behavior. He needs to be an orderly, and modest man. The Greek word is related to the word used in I Timothy 2:9 speaking of women dressing modestly. I'm not going to lay down hard and fast rules for good behavior in a man any more than I laid down rules for women's dress. While I do have respect for the weaker brother, my life isn't dictated by the demands of the perpetual weaker brother. There are some whose spiritual gift seems to be getting offended by something someone has done, said, or thought; some atrocity that might be the least bit out of what they deem good and proper. Instead of mourners benches, some churches need to install fainting couches for those who are continually getting a touch of the vapors at any sign of manly originality or eccentric behavior. There was once a person who met their pastor at a social event in the city and the lady was outraged that her pastor was there. "Why, this is no place for a pastor!" If it was no place for the pastor, it was no place for the church member either.

That being said, the pastor does need to be mindful that he walks this earth under the Lordship of Christ and that his behavior needs to reflect that. He needs to be the kind of man that will return his shopping cart to the buggy stall in the Wal-Mart parking and pick up trash if he drops it on the street. Not to be seen of men, but rather it is being kind and loving to his neighbors. It is that kind of character and good behavior that should mark God's people. The people of God should be the best citizens and the pastor should take the lead. I worked with a man once who said he was a preacher, but in reality he was a scoundrel. When people caught him in lies and deception, they didn't say "this man is no preacher" but rather said "this is who preachers are".

The pastor ought to be a hospitable man and hospitality should be defined by the Word of God and not Southern Living magazine. He should be welcoming to those who come into the house of God and should be welcoming to those who come into his home. I was listening to a well-known pastor do a Q&A session with his church online. Each person would step up to the microphone and state his name, then his question. The man stood up to the mic, the pastor asked his name, and then said "I've been a member of this church for 20 years." I was struck by the fact that this pastor didn't know the name of a man who had been coming to his church for two decades and the man didn't seem to mind either. He may be an extraordinary preacher and he may be the worlds finest expositor, but how can you be a pastor if you don't know the names of the people who you have been preaching to for twenty years? Of course, let us be mindful that our rules of hospitality should not be imposed upon other men and we all need to live patiently with one another.

Let's also try not be too quick to write a person off because they had a bad day in any of these areas. We are very quick to judge other people for their failures and just as quick to excuse ours. So if you see a man not take his buggy back to the corral at Wal-Mart, don't bring him up on disciplinary charges.